What, you ask does one have to do with the other, well nothing in the small picture, but if we look at the big picture; EVERYTHING!
I have been thinking about it a lot over the last several days, after having to decide whether or not to fix our old vehicle; by the way we just finished paying it off, or buy a new one. Well eventually buying a new one was the way to go since it would have been more to fix the old one than it was worth. Looking back on it, we did do regular oil changes and the little things to keep the car running, but really neglected the pieces that would have kept it running even longer, like the regular tune ups, etc, etc.
I believe this is the same with our marriages, in the beginning when the marriage is new we are so excited to wake up next to that person everyday, and laugh, joke, and live life with our mate. After a few years we start going through other phases of our life; jobs, bills, buying homes, having babies, etc. We start to wake up everyday and start going through the motion of everyday life while we forget what we had in the beginning.
We forgot the maintenance part of the relationship, the need for talking about things that matter to the other one, the need for dating at least once a month to reconnect and enjoy each other company, the need to just hold each other and enjoy being held, and the need to know each other’s love language; the language by which we all give and receive love. If we could only remember that feeling we first had in the beginning of the relationship for the whole life of the marriage, the marriage would far outlast anything else. It would truly stand the test of time and live up to the “death do us part”
If we could only take care of our partners in the same fashion as we do as a new car; washing it every week, detailing it once a month, polishing it once a year, rotating the tires, and getting the milage inspections done. We could say I love you everyday, maybe more than once, kiss each other before we went to sleep, write love notes to each other once in a while, go out at least once a month, and take a trip when ever possible. This is a hard lesson to learn, some of us figure it out and some of us never do. As for me I will say the little bit of time, energy, and money that goes into the maintenance of both is worth it for the long term of both. We all need to remember that we only get out of things what we put into them. ~ Angie
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